A Dating Site That Helps Lesbians Find Femmes. by Megan Bacon-Evans Published on August 27, 2018 August 27, 2018. We know first-hand how hard it is to find love, especially when you’re a femme lesbian. As feminine lesbians, it’s hard to get recognized, and believed, as being gay. Butch/femme partners paved the way for lesbians to come by creating the first safe spaces for them to explore their sexualities and to find one another in lesbian bars. While butch and femme lesbians have faced harsh criticism, to ignore their impact and gifts to the lesbian community would be a disservice.